Enter: waiting. Waiting is a social skill that needs to be taught and practiced in order to be improved. What can we expect out of our children when we ask them to wait? First, consider age and functioning level. The rule-of-thumb for time out is one minute per year of age, we shouldn’t expect our children to wait much longer than that without finding something else to occupy their time. This means your four-year-old shouldn’t be expected to wait for something for longer than 4 minutes.

What is the difference between awareness and acceptance? Awareness means you know it exists, you can identify it, you know something is happening, you cope with it or deal with it, or tolerate it. Acceptance means you connect personally and learn more, you talk to people and gain understanding, compassion and sensitivity. It means you offer help and support without judgement; you embrace it, grow from it, and build relationships with someone who has it.

I can’t help but feel a sense of mourning. What a grim milestone (yet another one). This is 100 days of meeting via zoom. 100 days she hasn’t been able to set foot in a classroom. 100 days and she’s yet to meet her teacher or classmates in person. This is my daughter’s first year of “big kid” school. The magical kindergarten year where kids are introduced to the wonder that is school, paving the way for a lifetime love of learning, or at least we hope.

What is coping? To “cope” is to invest your efforts into solving personal and interpersonal problems, in order to master, minimize, or tolerate stress and conflict (Thanks Wikipedia). Coping strategies are the tool belt that we keep certain skills in to help us achieve that homeostasis during stressful times. Hello stressful time

Tolerating a mask for extended periods of time is (hopefully) a short-term skill but is an essential skill for us to access aspects of a “normal” life. It has become a part of our lives and doesn’t look like it’s going away any time soon.

5 months ago, the Governor of California placed a stay-at-home order for the state.

With the internet being even more present in our lives than ever, this post is going to focus on how to make sure our kids are being safe when they are accessing the internet. This may not be the most fun post I’ve ever written, and at points it may be uncomfortable to think about these things, but it’s imperative that we keep these risks in mind and explicitly address them with our children to keep them safe.

Independence is a vital skill that may need some explicit teaching now that our kids are at home with us and will likely be home with us 5 out of the 7 days of the week when schools are back in session, depending on where you live.

Have your kids been getting up earlier and earlier? You’ve come to the right place. Today we’re going to go over healthy sleep habits and the “Ok to wake” products on the market, and how to use them effectively. Just in time for mother’s day!

Social distancing has become a common phrase for people around the globe in the last few months. We have been told to keep a distance from those around us, to stay at home, and to maintain any social contacts from afar. For parents of special needs children, this poses a few challenges (therapies have been put on hold or look very different as they are conducted through a computer screen), but for the most part, many parents are looking around and welcoming the rest of us into their everyday reality.

In an effort to support you in any way that I can, this post is going to focus on how to talk about emotions, and how to teach your children to communicate some of the very big, very complicated emotions we are feeling right now.

My last post focused on how we can help our kids during this school shut down that we’re currently enduring. This post will focus a bit more on your own self care.

So far 2020 has been fun, right? Parents across the country are preparing to be home with their children for an unknown amount of time. This is an absolutely terrifying prospect for parents of typically developing children, that feeling is compounded for parents of special-needs children. I

Previous blog posts have focused on what to do with your child with behavioral issues, or with special needs. Admittedly, there has been a gap in support for their siblings. Research has shown that siblings of children with special needs have particular challenges and particular psychological needs. Some of the best behavioral therapists and behavior analysts that I have worked with entered this field because they had a sibling with autism or special needs. That is pretty telling. Siblings are powerful. Siblings are resourceful. Siblings are essential.

I have written about the Token Economy System and how it can be a game-changer when implemented correctly and used as a method to provide reinforcement to children, both with and without developmental disabilities. Token systems are a huge part of my “ABA Toolkit” and they are typically what I reach for first when parents ask me for a quick and easy way to improve behavior.

As parents it’s a given that we will worry about how our child is developing at some point. In fact, there’s a term for the specific anxiety parents feel when watching their child meet, or not meet, developmental milestones

A little defiance is a normal part of healthy development. As kids grow and learn it is part of their nature to test their boundaries and learn how to push our buttons. As parents it is our job to place reasonable boundaries, set examples, and reinforce rules to give children an understanding of their environment, what they can and cannot question, and reinforce who is in charge (Hint: it has to be you).

Summer is coming! For some of your children it’s already here, and for a lot of us it can be a couple of long months of bickering and fighting between siblings who aren’t used to spending so much time together. What’s a mom to do? Hiding in the bathroom while they fight isn’t an option, so let’s explore some strategies to help siblings get along and play nice so we can all have a fun, peaceful summer. I promise, September will be here eventually.

So you’ve decided you’re done changing diapers, congratulations! Now what? Whether you’re beginning the toilet training process for the first time or the fourth time can be a terrifying and daunting task. The topics and tips in this post can help to point you in the right direction, give you the support you need and give you the confidence to know that your child will not attend their first day of high school wearing diapers. You got this.

Last week’s post focused on the four functions of behavior. If you haven’t read that post it would be helpful to get caught up here. As a quick refresher, all behaviors fall under one of the four functions of behavior; escape, access to attention, access to tangibles, or sensory stimulation. This post will go in to how to recognize patterns in behavior to help understand how consequences shape our behavior.